Okay, here’s the deal. My boyfriend Jason and I have been together for almost two years now. The relationship is going great, and he’s never given me any reason not to trust him.
The only thing that bothers me is that he has several close girlfriends that he hangs out with pretty regularly. In fact, I’ve noticed that he really doesn’t have any guy buddies. Most of the time, he has two or three girls that he’ll meet up for drinks with. He invites me sometimes, but honestly, I feel like such an outsider when I’m with them. He’s known them for way longer than he’s known me, so they have a bunch of in-jokes and stuff that goes over my head. So now I usually just tell him to hang out with them on his own.
This is all fine, and I guess we’ve come to an understanding about that. But what does bother me sometimes is when he ends up hanging with one of the girls just by themselves. I guess she kind of sees him as a big brother because she ends up always going to him when she’s having issues in her dating life.
I don’t want to sound like a jealous girlfriend, and I’m obviously pretty open with him about my discomfort, but I can’t lie, it does bother me a little that he has like this harem of girls he spends a lot of his free time with, while never spending any time with any guy buddies.
Is this weird? Is it normal for me to feel uncomfortable?