I was just wanting to get some general thoughts on moving in together.
My boyfriend and I have been together for about six months. He lives about fifteen or twenty minutes away, and I have a very good deal on an apartment in an ideal location. If I want to keep my two-bedroom apartment for another year, I have to re-sign the lease soon. My current roommate is moving out of town and so she wouldn’t be re-signing, but my boyfriend and I have been seriously talking about moving in together. The location is great for both of us, the management is great, the apartment is nice, and the price is perfect for both of us (he’d be saving a lot of money with the price of rent, and it’s low enough that I could actually afford it).
I would love to have him move in with me and live together. We pretty much haven’t spent a night apart in the last 5 months (my roommate is perfectly fine with him being here so much, I swear!), so it’s safe to say that this is something we both want and could handle sharing a living space. I guess what frightens me is basing the living situation of the next year (and then some) on how the previous six months have gone, even though the past 6 months have gone great. We’ve been spending a ton of time together, we get along well, and when we don’t get along we’re pretty good about talking it out afterward, changing our behavior, and implementing strategies for more effective communication.
Basically, I feel like we would love living together and we’d do a good job of it, but when I remove myself from the situation and think about making such an important, long-term decision based on a relatively small amount of time, I start to feel less sure.
Does anyone have their own personal guidelines when it comes to moving in with SOs? Any words of advice? Warnings? Encouragement?