I developed a crush on my teacher (a graduate assistant 4 years older than me, both of us over 25 – nothing scandalous!) in January of this year. While I was in his class, I had a boyfriend so I never showed any interest or tried to get to know him, but now that I am single (4 months in) I am curious about how I should approach getting in contact with him, or if I should at all.
He has always been friendly, shared personal stories with me, and been somewhat flirty – remembering things I said and referencing them, joking around with me during class, coming up to me to say hi when he sees me around town, and giving me a tour of his studio space.
I didn’t see him over the summer, but recently ran into him at a school function. For the hour that I was there, he talked to me the entire time, said we should hang out, and put his number in my phone. I generally get the vibe that he is interested, but he is never TOO overt (no compliments on how I look or telling me he wants to take me on a date or anything). The way he treats me could be deemed “friendly” by anyone who wants to look at it that way.
A good friend of mine told me recently that she was under the impression that he was dating someone long-term. I have never seen him with a girl, and he never mentioned having a girlfriend in the time that I’ve known him – she wasn’t in stories, or referenced at any point. I was getting the idea that he was single and possibly interested, so this threw me for a loop.
I texted him with information about a school event, which he quickly responded to, and it became a short and fun conversation about 4 days ago. We haven’t talked again since. I am wondering if I should try contacting him again. If he has a girlfriend, I DO NOT want to interfere, but I have no way of knowing (he doesn’t have a Facebook profile and we don’t have mutual friends, aside from the one who is unsure of his status).
I consider getting a hold of him just to make plans to do something, or to say hi… but then I think, he has my number now too. Should I wait to see if he initiates anything? Should I show him that I am interested? – (over the course of this, he has shown some interest in me but I really haven’t shown much in him, since I had a boyfriend for most of the time I’ve known him). Do I try to sneak in a question to see if he is single? I am sitting by my phone itching to talk to him, but I don’t want to make a fool of myself if I show interest and he didn’t mean it in that way, or potentially be seen in some kind of “home-wrecker” light if he in fact has a girlfriend and she sees me contacting him.