So, my boyfriend and I have been dating since freshman year, but we’re going off to college next fall, and I want to hear people’s opinions on college (my actual questions are at the bottom):
Some background, academically: We’re both applying to pretty prestigious universities, him for engineering, me for biology or education. We both have high aspirations for our future; neither of us wants to hold the other back from getting the best education possible, & this means we’re moving apart, as much as we hate it.
Some background, relationship-ly: He is my best friend. We can talk about anything, always, and because of this we almost never fightó we’re just always on the same team. Things have always been simple and down-to-earth with him, and I love who I am around him. We’re happy around each otheró we go to the same school and we still hang out almost every weekend. I know he’s got my back and I’ve never once worried about us breaking upó we’re inseparable best friends, and I don’t want to lose him. He makes me smile, he’s gotten me interested in things I’ve never dreamed of being interested in, and he gets along with my mom and sister like a member of the family. He and I spend a LOT of time together– we have the same friends, go to the same social events, and do many things as a pair (although we do have our own extracurriculars).
That being said, I’ve heard that it’s naÔve to think that we’ll “be together forever”. I’ve heard it said that I’ll miss out on a lot of the “college experience” if I have a high school sweetheart at home, and that one can’t have a mature relationship at our age because we’re simply too young.
Now, we talk about everything, so I know that if either of us was feeling trapped, we’d be able to talk about it and figure out a solution. Neither of us is particularly jealous or possessive in general, but we are very attached to one another.
I think I’m rambling… anyway, my final questions: Is it possible that I’ve met somebody worth staying with at my age? Do you have any advice for long-distance relationships? Or– and you can be blunt– am I being lovestruck/ having cloudy judgement/ over-romanticizing this?
Help me, adults in the real world!