I have a theory about why it’s hard to succeed on dating sites.
It seems to me, in the scheme of things alike attracts alike but provide too much information and people start seeing things they feel are unalike or they don’t like the sound of. Ironically a lot of what people write on profiles isn’t wildly relevant but people can’t help judging what they see before them.
Since in real life actual words make up only 7% of communication and a dating site profiles being made up of lots of words and usually a bit where people write lots of their own and 93% of normal communication is missing, it’s doesn’t seem surprising that people have trouble rationally interpreting profiles.
Having rewritten my own profiles endlessly I’ve eventually discovered what works best is lower on fact and higher on other forms of expression (photos/humor/attitude) This I reckon is more closed aligned with how people judge other people in real life.
Certain dating sites positively encourage lots of information to be provided but this seems crazy to me if people can’t handle too much information.
There may be a scarcity principle angle in here somewhere too as that relates to more or less choice. Which is kind of the same as more or less information.
comments/thoughts on this?