I know Emily Rose blurbed about this not too long ago, and i just had a ‘oops’ moment, so i want to know what you think.
Babe and i are very open about our phones, accounts, etc. We share a computer, and since it is a mac it saves passwords, and those passwords are easily viewed. To add to that, we both have all of our account names/passwords written down in a book near the computer, for both of us (facebook, email, banks, shopping sites, etc). When i’ve been in the hospital, he has updated/checked my facebook, he has logged into my email to send me things (to get them on my phone) and i’ve taken off inappropriate posts for him on his facebook (a friend had looked up his criminal record, and posted the number of convictions he had. STUPID!) and i’ve checked his email to see status of packages. We dont hide things.
Yesterday i reset everything BUT passwords on our browser, and when i went to log into facebook it had defaulted to his. i didnt realize it at the time, so when i logged in and i had new messages i checked them. They were his (he uses it to see what events are happening more than anything and so people who KNOW him dont use it as a form of contact). An old one (he’d read it but it was from last october) was from an ex girlfriend who had treated him awful, who was just saying ‘Sorry, i see now i was wrong, i just needed to appologize’. I saw the name, and ‘snooped’. He never replied to her, so i’m not upset. And seeing he had a message from her in the first place was a complete accident. I dont feel wrong in what i did, and i’m not upset with him for not telling me, and since he didnt respond or friend her or anything, its not a big deal.
If you are open about accounts/phones/computers, and you check the other persons stuff (accidently like i did or at their request), and you see something and check into it further, is that snooping?? If you are open about those things, and check them out of curiosity but not out of concern or suspicion, is that snooping?? If you are not open, but accidently or at their request hop on, and see something and check further, is that snooping?? Or is it only when you arent open about things, and check them anyway without permission?? What do you think??