It seems like most people on here are either in a relationship or looking for love mostly online, but what do you do if you run into someone attractive while you’re out and about?
A friend of mine text me saying “Holy wow. Gorgeous guy across from me at this show, what do I do?” I told her to just walk up and pay him a compliment, but my advice is really no good here as I have never hit on a complete stranger while sober before.
She lucked out and the guy in question made the first move, but in the future, what do I tell my single friends in this situation?
LemonVibe 
[“Hey, how’s it going?”
Translation:
“Hi. I have boobs, and if you’re nice, I’ll let you play with them. Also, I’ll probably make you pancakes in the morning with real maple syrup if things go well tonight.”
[I’ve never been able to come up with anything more clever than “hi.”
[Well from a male persepctive, I don’t think any man would ever be put off by being approached by a woman who found them attractive, as long as it’s done nicely. I’m sure it’s the same way for women.
But more specifically I’d suggest your friend open with a terrible joke, they’re instant ice breakers in non alcohol induced settings.
For example.
Female: “Hey I don’t know if you realised, but you’ve dropped something”
Male: Have I?
Female: Yeah, my jaw.
Male: My seed is yours.
[I don’t have one, I usually just give guys “looks”. If you’re at a bar and sitting next to a guy you want to talk to, you could ask what beer he’s drinking or which one on tap he would recommend, or if there’s a sports game on tv, mention something about that. But I’m not one to use true pickup lines.
[Basically going along with what most of the women here have said, I don’t think a girl ever needs a pickup line. Let’s face it, from both an evolutionary and societal perspective, men are evolved and conditioned to be the pursuers (out of convenience, I’m not attaching any links here, but if you disagree with me, be prepared to get a mountain of evidence thrown at you).
If a guy sees you, and he likes you, he’ll be trying to figure out a way to approach you. In that case, your best pickup routine is to make eye contact and smile at any guy you find attractive. Seriously. If he likes you, he’ll come up and talk to you. Make HIM come up with the pickup line.
Okay, but then you may ask, “What if he doesn’t see me? What if he’s shy? Or what if he’s the type of guy who wants girls to pursue him, even just a little?”
And I would answer:
If he doesn’t see you, or he looks shy or timid, then… sure, go up and say hi. There’s nothing wrong with that. But, that’s really all you should have to say. If he likes you, he’ll be ecstatic and want to continue the conversation. He’s not going to judge you based on your lack of a pickup line.
But if he does “judge” you… Like, if he’s a particularly smooth guy, he might call you out and say something like, “Really, that’s the best pickup line you got? You’ll have to do better than that!” But seriously, if he does that, he’s just flirting with you.
Now, if he’s the type who wants to be pursued… sorry, you’re on your own here. Because I’m not going to give women tips on how to play games with men who play games.
[My pickup line isn’t words. It’s a look.
Eye contact + lowered eyelids + slight smile = come talk to me and you might get lucky.
By the time time they realize they’re not actually going to get lucky right there and then, they’ve met a girl they actually don’t mind asking out for a real date.
This only works if you’re interesting!
[I put the “STD” in stud. All that’s missing is “U.”
[I always over think things like this. I’ve never been very good with pick up lines because they always seem so corny. The only thing you know about a person you’ve just seen is how they look, so that’s the only thing you can compliment them on and doing that makes me feel like I’m specifically talking to them because I want to have sex with them. Not all that flattering in my opinion, as it makes me think of those lecherous guys that are always hitting on women lewdly. Same with telling them that you wanted to get to know them. I have no basis for wanting to get to know them except horizontally and since I’ve thought all this through, honesty doesn’t sound all that great either. Like I said, I over think it.
As far as things go for women, I couldn’t give you the faintest idea, but everyone else’s suggestions sound right. A come-hither look and smile should work 90% of the time, but if not, simply saying hi should be enough. I know it’d be enough for me at least.
[No, no, no. You have to lure them in with normal conversation.
Man: “Hi. Your outfit is quite nice.”
Woman: “Thanks. I felt like trying to look nice tonight.”
Man: “And those earrings. They really accent your delicate facial features.”
Woman: “Aww. You’re so sweet.”
Man: “Lest’s copulate.”
This never fails.
[All these responses that say the woman should just look pretty and hope the guy is into it are saddening. From women too! To quote Happy Pants ” FEMINISMMM”. Don’t women get their pick of the litter, too? I’ve certainly gone on dates with guys who never would have initially caught my eye. They walked up to me and gave me the sales pitch and I bought it.
So, a girl who isn’t your type physically isn’t allowed to make a sales pitch based on her personality? I get what you’re saying in that guys are hardwired to pursue, but that doesn’t mean ladies should never try, does it?
[I like my women how I like my coffee-
Nineteen years old with daddy issues.
[I find this whole thread pretty hilarious.