Today I had a really big job interview. I’ve been unemployed for a while and this was really important to me. I told my two closest friends about it as soon as I got the word, and even spoke with both friends briefly about it yesterday.
Neither one of them wished me any sort of good luck. No text, no email, no call. And it hurt. So I reflected back on my relationship with both of them, and realized that they are actually quite “needy” – they monopolize conversations, expect me to be their cheerleader when something is going on for them, offer support in a crisis, etc.
I am also pissed, and have decided if I am not worth a minute of their time, then they are not worth ANY of mine. But now I want to find friends that are NOT the kind I seem to attract! How do you do that? And how do you know they won’t turn into one of THOSE types of friends?