We’ve all been there. We see a cute guy or girl across the room, share a moment of eye contact (was that eye contact? or was he just looking at the screen behind me? OMG WE’RE SOULMATES.), and decide we’d like to get to know this person. Biblically, perhaps.
It can be in a bar, a store, a concert, a house party, class, anywhere. My question is: what are the things about a complete stranger that will get you to go over to him or her and strike up a conversation? And what’s the best way to go about that?
LemonVibe 
[I’m asking out of sheer curiosity, not at all because of my library crush, who I see almost every day and want to take down to the basement and have my dirty, dirty library way with. No, it’s definitely not because of that. Nope. No, sir.
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I’d get a random stranger to take them over a hand written note that simply said.
“They’re onto me, that look means they’re onto you too, we’ll need to meet up for coffee to discuss a plan of action, you have five minutes because the ninjas arrive”.
Also the note should be written in crayon.
[Stay walking over. You’ll psych yourself up and be sort of make yourself more attracted to them just by committing the 20 foot walk over there. That’s all I can offer, once you’re there you should try and have some sort of plan formulated.
[I dunno. Given your avatar, it’s not so much eyes that I want to make at you, but rather, pies.
[I don’t approach guys… something about it makes me feel too forward. A guy who is into a girl who makes the first move/takes control isn’t my kind of guy, so I don’t want to attract that kind of guy by being that kind of girl… if that makes any sense.
But that’s just me.
If I’m trying to get a guy to come over and talk to ME, I meet his eye contact and give him a smile with a look that says “you can keep staring, or you can come do something about it.” If he comes over, hooray. If he doesn’t, I don’t usually think about it much. I’m a “let things happen” kind of person.
I’ve never been “boy crazy” like that. Making eye contact with someone, for me, is just eye contact. It’s a cool connection to make with someone, but why does it have to be more than that?
[If I see someone random that I’m attracted to and say something random to them as an initial overture, it’s usually because life has somehow already contrived to make our paths cross. It’s rare that I would ever go up to someone at a bar, or a coffee shop, or even the library, because I’m too shy and awkward.
If we happen to be at the copy machine or standing in line at the same time, I wouldn’t be too shy to say something. I’d still be awkward, though.
[I’ve always felt like I was at a huge disadvantage whenever I approached, like I was begging. Probably the begging didn’t help. But also, there was an urge to say something awesome or memorable or original, sickening myself in the process. Originality is such a fad. And I hate people that set out to be an “original” instead of just being honest. So approaching made me hate myself I guess.
[I always liked when I would see a guy laughing and not looking around the room a whole lot. Maybe a little, but not constantly scanning the room for girls. I enjoy a great sense of humor, so if a guy is laughing I tend to think he might have one! Also, seeing a guy laugh makes me feel like he is more approachable. I figure, if I go talk to this guy and he shoots me down at least I can make a joke out of it, we can both laugh about it, and everyone still leaves with their ego intact!