I’m currently living with one of my best friends, Aiden. We met in college and got along immediately. We have a lot of similarities, interests, and people even often mistake us for brothers.
Aiden moved to my city a few months after I did because there wasn’t much opportunity where he was currently living. Because he was moving without any full-time job prospects I told him I would understand if he was behind in rent/bills the first month while looking for work.
We both had an understanding that he would look for any, and all, work just so he would have an income to cover financial responsibilities as soon as possible.
It didn’t take him long to find a job at a local restaurant, as a server, for a paycheck while looking for more “career-type” work.
Within about a month from getting the server job he got a job more along the lines of his interests and career; and a significant increase in pay (at least $2000 a month from what I saw on a pay stub he left on the kitchen table one day).
Last month I lost my job so currently the only income I have is a weekly unemployment check.
We have now been living together for 6 months…and he has yet to pay me any money for his part of rent and utilities. He’s had months to start paying me back but when I’ve asked him (monthly) he says either that he doesn’t have the money or he’s still catching up on some other debts.
This is the first I’ve heard of “other debts”. Even if he does have other debts why does he think that I have to shoulder the burden of picking up his slack when trying to pay off those debts?
I’m left wondering where does his money go if he’s mainly spending it on his personal cell phone bill, food and going out with his friends?
I’ve even resorted to leaving an itemized “bill” on a sheet of paper stuck to the fridge. An interesting thing is that the mornings after he’s had friends over (which often carries over late into the night) I’ll find the paper on top of the fridge, like he’s hiding it from his friends…perhaps so they don’t know how unreliable he is.
I’m at the point where I don’t really know what to do. We’re both on the lease so I don’t feel I can really kick him out. And even if I did, after speaking with the leasing agents at my complex they said they wouldn’t have any power to go after him. As long as one of the people on the lease is around they just care about getting their money. So, simply put, he could completely disappear and I’d be stuck with everything as they view it as a roommate agreement and not a breach of their contract since I was still present.
*Edit – I forgot to mention that for the last month (maybe two) it is obvious he is trying to avoid me. Whenever I’m in the common area when he gets home he goes immediately into his room and will not come out until I’ve gone to my room.
I’ve tested this by going to my room at different times every night for the last 3 evenings and each night I hear him come out of his roommate within 10-15 minutes of my leaving.*