[I don’t know if this is helpful, but I was going to wait three days once and the girl became impatient and called me, also calling me out on that bullcrap.
[You don’t want to come off as desperate, but three days seems like WAY too long to me. At that point, she’s probably figured that you aren’t interested in her.
[I think the next day or the day after is reasonable, but if you wait too long, the other person’s going to wonder why. I generally wait two days, but even then, in my experience, a lot of guys are intimidated by a girl who actually expresses her interest in ways other than playing with her hair and letting them win at bar games.
[I’ve written about this particular topic before as it is often something that people always get conflicting answers for.
My personal advice. Do what feels right to you. Here are a few things I’ve learned:
1.) you do not need to wait three days (or any number of days) to call/text a guy or girl. In fact it is encouraged to let them know you had a nice time either later that night (if not too late) or the next day.
2.) it is not frowned upon to ask for another date only a day later. Some may say this is too straight-forward. Others may say it is bold and shows confidence.
3.) though it is common courtesy, you do not need to plan a date way ahead of time. If there is something “time sensitive” that you want to invite her to, do it. For example, if you and a group of friends decide to go see a movie after work one evening and you want to invite her, do so. You can acknowledge that it is last-minute and apologize but also understand if she can’t make it because it is so last-minute. If she agrees, yippee! If she declines, or already has plans, use this opportunity to maybe plan the next date.
[Yeah, 3 days is stupid. If a guy waited 3 days to text me, I’d be more irritated than excited when he finally did.
I agree with Eleanor, the next day afternoon text that says he remembers me and had a good time is a great place to start. You’re coming off the excitement from the night before, and it’s a great time frame to start getting to know someone a little better.
[I think in times past, when communication was much slower in general, 3 days was likely an acceptable time frame. Now, however, this is the age of instant technology when contact is lightning fast. Of course we should adjust these little “rules” to reflect our society as it is today.
If you are interested in someone, let them know. People are impatient. If you wait too long, you just may lose your chance.
[Totally agree with David. If I’m in to someone, I’m not going to wait 3 days to let them know. By that point in time, they’ve likely forgotten about me.
I think the concept behind the rule is solid though and that’s “don’t rush it.” Take your time to consider how you really feel rather than letting yourself get swept up in a euphoria of hormones and emotions.
Jumping head first every time might be exhilarating, but it’s also a good way to crack your head open when you find out you’re diving into the shallow end.
[First off, who came up with this 3 day rule anyway? Probably someone who is still single, I am guessing! Honesty and communication are two very important factors in a relationship so I say:
Be honest. Call when you feel you want to honestly talk with her. Don’t call on the night of, day after, or next day…just because you think you should. Call when it’s right.
Communicate. If you are in to her, let her know when you feel it. If you had a great time that night, shoot her a text saying you had a great time and then maybe follow up a day later with a call.
There are no set rules in relationships. As a society, we like to think we can make a set standard for love, life and relationships, but the truth is, the only set rules are that there are NO real rules for these things. Go with your heart.
[Hoopla. Don’t call as soon as you get home, but don’t wait three days for pete’s sake! I’m a big fan of the next afternoon-ish “I had a great time last night” text message. But I’m one of those crazy people who actually likes text messages as a form of communication.
[Hell no, do NOT wait 3 days. That’s way too long. If someone called me 3 days after our date, I’d assume they ran out of other options and are trying to make me feel like they were busy.
[The three-day rule is great for people who don’t have the social skills to pick up on lackluster interest or outright disinterest.
If the other person likes you (and you know for sure that they do)… great, call them right away, and they’ll be stoked.
If they’re not all that interested, and you call them the night you meet them, and you leave a five minute-long voicemail about how you felt such a connection to them and how you think this could lead to something amazing….
LemonVibe 
[I don’t know if this is helpful, but I was going to wait three days once and the girl became impatient and called me, also calling me out on that bullcrap.
I married her
[You don’t want to come off as desperate, but three days seems like WAY too long to me. At that point, she’s probably figured that you aren’t interested in her.
[I think the next day or the day after is reasonable, but if you wait too long, the other person’s going to wonder why. I generally wait two days, but even then, in my experience, a lot of guys are intimidated by a girl who actually expresses her interest in ways other than playing with her hair and letting them win at bar games.
[I’ve written about this particular topic before as it is often something that people always get conflicting answers for.
My personal advice. Do what feels right to you. Here are a few things I’ve learned:
1.) you do not need to wait three days (or any number of days) to call/text a guy or girl. In fact it is encouraged to let them know you had a nice time either later that night (if not too late) or the next day.
2.) it is not frowned upon to ask for another date only a day later. Some may say this is too straight-forward. Others may say it is bold and shows confidence.
3.) though it is common courtesy, you do not need to plan a date way ahead of time. If there is something “time sensitive” that you want to invite her to, do it. For example, if you and a group of friends decide to go see a movie after work one evening and you want to invite her, do so. You can acknowledge that it is last-minute and apologize but also understand if she can’t make it because it is so last-minute. If she agrees, yippee! If she declines, or already has plans, use this opportunity to maybe plan the next date.
[Yeah, 3 days is stupid. If a guy waited 3 days to text me, I’d be more irritated than excited when he finally did.
I agree with Eleanor, the next day afternoon text that says he remembers me and had a good time is a great place to start. You’re coming off the excitement from the night before, and it’s a great time frame to start getting to know someone a little better.
[I’m a firm believer in the next day call. Waiting 3 days would just make that first phone call awkward.
[Ridiculous.
Don’t smother the person with immediate phone calls thirty minutes later, but the next day is reasonable.
If you like them, why wait. That’s like ordering a pizza three days in advance.
[Total hoopla. If anyone were to wait three days to call me, I’d send them straight to voicemail.
[I think in times past, when communication was much slower in general, 3 days was likely an acceptable time frame. Now, however, this is the age of instant technology when contact is lightning fast. Of course we should adjust these little “rules” to reflect our society as it is today.
If you are interested in someone, let them know. People are impatient. If you wait too long, you just may lose your chance.
[If I’m interested in a guy, I would be thrilled if he called me the next day. The 3 day rule is stupid.
[Totally agree with David. If I’m in to someone, I’m not going to wait 3 days to let them know. By that point in time, they’ve likely forgotten about me.
I think the concept behind the rule is solid though and that’s “don’t rush it.” Take your time to consider how you really feel rather than letting yourself get swept up in a euphoria of hormones and emotions.
Jumping head first every time might be exhilarating, but it’s also a good way to crack your head open when you find out you’re diving into the shallow end.
[First off, who came up with this 3 day rule anyway? Probably someone who is still single, I am guessing! Honesty and communication are two very important factors in a relationship so I say:
Be honest. Call when you feel you want to honestly talk with her. Don’t call on the night of, day after, or next day…just because you think you should. Call when it’s right.
Communicate. If you are in to her, let her know when you feel it. If you had a great time that night, shoot her a text saying you had a great time and then maybe follow up a day later with a call.
There are no set rules in relationships. As a society, we like to think we can make a set standard for love, life and relationships, but the truth is, the only set rules are that there are NO real rules for these things. Go with your heart.
[Hoopla. Don’t call as soon as you get home, but don’t wait three days for pete’s sake! I’m a big fan of the next afternoon-ish “I had a great time last night” text message. But I’m one of those crazy people who actually likes text messages as a form of communication.
[Hell no, do NOT wait 3 days. That’s way too long. If someone called me 3 days after our date, I’d assume they ran out of other options and are trying to make me feel like they were busy.
[The three-day rule is great for people who don’t have the social skills to pick up on lackluster interest or outright disinterest.
If the other person likes you (and you know for sure that they do)… great, call them right away, and they’ll be stoked.
If they’re not all that interested, and you call them the night you meet them, and you leave a five minute-long voicemail about how you felt such a connection to them and how you think this could lead to something amazing….
Yeah, stick to the three-day rule.