“I kissed another guy”

Okay well… I’m gonna start with the fact that I am in a relationship and have been for 2 years. We have had a lot of problems, as he was being inappropriate with another girl for half of our relationship over text.

I recently went to a Villa my family own and met this guy, he is 8 years older than me and also has a partner. Well, the night before I came home, he came to say goodbye as my family get along with him and works at our favourite bar. Long story short he kissed me… he cuddled me and held me. It felt nice, I felt something for this guy and he’s now telling me we can only ever be friends?

I feel disgusted by what I’ve done to my partner but I haven’t had any affection in months and it felt nice but now this guy has thrown it in my face. What do I do? I love my boyfriend but I’m not sure if it’s right anymore, and I haven’t stopped thinking about this guy.

 

“Am I just being insecure?”

I’ve been in a serious relationship with a man for 7.5 years now. It started out great. We went places, on vacations with our kids together. Then we stopped for money reasons, but we still did all our staycations together with our kids. When vacation time came…we spent it together, whether or not we went anywhere.

BUT… two years ago, during Spring break I was surprised when he took just his daughter away for a few nights without us, because I couldn’t afford to split the cost. I felt ditched, left out, just because we couldn’t afford it. Continue reading

“My husband is always on vacation with his dad”

I really need advice on my 5 year marriage. We are 29 and 31 and recently my husband has been going on vacation with his father for two weeks every year on the other side of the world. Recently, when my husband came back from vacation, literally the day after, he tells me that he is now planning on going on another vacation with his dad in Mexico very soon.

We have never gone on vacation together even though I have asked him on many occasions. It just seems unfair to me that he has just come back, we are in the middle of closing on a new house and I guess I’m angry because he makes no effort to plan any adventures or vacations of any kind with me. Yet when his dad pays for him to go¬†with him somewhere, he jumps at the chance with no thought at all to invite me too.

His dad remarried a few years ago and has a bad marriage with his current wife, and he always seems to spend a lot of time away from her. I am worried that he is staring to influence my husband to do the same thing. As far as I am aware we have a loving marriage, I just get frustrated why my husband can’t understand that it upsets me and I feel excluded from his life. I know that if my parents invited me on vacation they would make sure my husband was invited too as we are married and to be honest I feel that marriage should include experiencing new things and places with each other. Am I wrong?