Money and relationships can go together sometimes very well, like Peanut Butter and Jelly and other times it goes together as unsuccessfully as Peanut Butter and Mayo (my apologies to those who like that combo).
I’m curious how money matters have evolved for many of you.
How did you handle money at the beginning of your relationship? Did one person pay for dates more often than the other? If so, was this based on historical gender roles or was it based on who was more “successful” (in the manner of income)?
As the relationship got more serious, and the two of you moved in together how did you then handle money? Did you split everything 50/50; rent, utilities, groceries, household items, etc.?
How “hard headed” would one of you be when it came to buying particular items? Say your significant other loves expensive cheeses and you don’t really like cheese too much. Would you feel taken advantage of if they put a few of those “delicacy” items in the grocery cart and then simply wanted to split the bill?
How did you approach going out on dates? When do you decide if it is a situation where one person picks up the entire bill or when it will be dutch?
Now say you’ve bought a house together, are engaged, married (or any combination of the above)…so on and so forth. Do any things change here?
Have you set up a joint account? Is that the only account you have now or are you both also maintaining your own personal accounts as well? This way you have the joint assigned for all bills and the personal account for personal items where you can still take part of those indulgences with no questions asked. Do you think something like that is beneficial to a relationship or harmful?
I’m sorry for this being extremely question heavy, but I figure that leaves room for a lot of excellent varied answers and comments.