I’m embarrased to admit it but I slept with the boy I’ve been in love with since the fifth grades older brother Chris. All these years I have been in love with Will and he has never showed that he loved me back or even cared the slightest about me. But recently he told me that he indeed did love and care about me. This all steemed from his asking why I hung out with his brother. I told him the truth and he freaked out. I feel like me sleeping with Chris ruined everything I possibly could have had with Will. I just want to know how to fix it. I love him…even if my actions show something different.
LemonVibe 
[Yikes…I don’t know what to tell you, honestly, because I’m not sure there is a way to fix it. That’s really up to Will and how he feels. The best thing to do, the only thing, really, is to 1) make sure Will knows how you really do feel, whether it’s another conversation with him or a letter or something, then 2) give Will some space to figure out what he wants and if he can deal with the fact that you slept with his brother, and then 3) stay the heck away from the brother.
Good luck, let us know how it goes!
[You can’t change the past so try not to dwell on what happened with Chris too much. You were honest with Will and all you can do is just keep being genuine. You’re the same person he loved and cared about before he found out about you and Chris. Those feelings could resurface once he gets over his initial reaction.
[I agree with what Breck said. There isn’t a whole lot you can do except be honest and then give the guy some time. Unfortunately, the fact you slept with his brother could be a dealbreaker. I would consider writing a heartfelt, hand-written letter to him and spill it. Tell him how you feel and put it all out there. After that, take a step back and let him come to you, if he is willing to let this go and move forward.
[I think the level of maturity in this whole situation indicates that everyone involved should just move on.
[Thanks you guys .
[Well, there’s not too much you can do since it seems like it’s up to how Will feels about the situation. I would just be honest with him about what you were thinking at the time–he never reciprocated your feelings so you thought that he would never feel that way about you and you tried to move on, but had you known how he really felt you wouldn’t have done so. What LRB said, put your heart on the line and then give him space to process all that information.
[I think David makes a good point:
If Will is so in love with you, why didn’t he ever show it?
It sounds to me like he was being kind of non-committal about yours (and his) feelings, and he was only compelled to reveal how he really felt when you found out he slept with his brother. Either way, he doesn’t have much of a right to be upset. It’s not like you two were dating, and you cheated on him.
I dunno, I guess you can apologize to make him feel better, but I think you could also call him out on this (but do so in a nice way), because you really didn’t do anything wrong in my opinion.
[I feel like there’s something missing. Why wasn’t he showing you any interest before? Why is he only interested when you’re hanging out with his brother?
I honestly don’t know what he’s thinking, but I feel like he shouldn’t be so judgmental about you being with his brother. He had years, no? If he cares enough about you then it should be something he can get past.
What were the circumstances of sleeping with the brother? Was it casual, or romanticish or what?
[I agree with David and Dennis. This whole thing seems a little childish and capricious to me. He seems butt-hurt because you slept with his brother, but without ever having tried to lay a claim previously. He doesn’t have a leg to stand on, here.
However, neither do you. You say you’re in love with this Will, but you slept with his brother. You didn’t do anything wrong, but you’re probably not going to be able to do anything to fix this.
I’m also a little concerned that you have been in “love” with the same guy since fifth grade. I don’t know how old you are, but chances are neither of you are even the same person you were back then. You should really think about moving on and finding someone else. Neither of these guys seems to be very good for you.
[I am curious about how the brother feels about all of this- is he serious about you? How does he feel that this whole time you’ve been sleeping with him you’ve been in love with his brother?
[Sadly, as stated above, there probably isn’t much (if anything) you can do to “make this up” to Will.
If you do really feel strongly about him, and believe you love him as much as you say you do, you’ll just have to try and prove it to him…and continue to do so until he can accept it.
However, as David and Dennis point out, this doesn’t all fall on your shoulders. He should definitely have to put a little effort into proving his true feelings for you as well. If his feelings didn’t come out until AFTER you started hanging out with Chris and/or AFTER you slept with Chris…then why did he wait so long? What was the hold up?
To channel the 80’s Glam Rock Band Cinderella, it sounds like he could have the case of ‘Don’t Know What You Got ‘Til It’s Gone’ fever.