I’m posting this anonymously just to maintain SOME semblance of privacy, but I’m sure anybody who’s been keeping up with the discussions knows who this is. Anyway….
My last serious girlfriend and I broke up over two years ago. For a while, things were a little awkward, but we eventually figured out how to be friends. This was kind of necessary because we share a mutual circle of friends. Well, one thing this circle of friends does every year is take a ski trip, which is where I am right now. Think, 10 people sharing a three-bedroom condo for three days.
This year, I invited my girlfriend, knowing full well that the ex would be there. Mad props to her for being willing to go, even though she hadn’t hung out with any of these friends yet, so she knew she’d be getting the trial by fire with them (and no, she didn’t only go because she wanted to keep tabs on me while I was hanging out with the ex).
I am unbelievably stoked how welcoming my friends have been. I mean, I wouldn’t have expected any less (that’s why I’m friends with them, after all), but it was still such a relief that my girlfriend is getting along with everyone and is having a blast. And even more stoked that things haven’t been weird between the current and the ex. Of course, I wouldn’t say that my girlfriend and my ex-girlfriend are now “friends,” but still, it makes me happy to consider that possibility.
At the same time, I’ve known plenty of people who get weirded out by the thought of their current significant other becoming friends with their ex. So, my question is, how would you feel about it if this were to happen? And, if you wouldn’t be happy, why?