I met a really great guy on Match and we dated for a couple months, but then he said that he didn’t think we were compatible and he wasn’t feeling it, so he ended it. A few days later, he texts me that he’s out with his friends and he’s really missing me lately. This was in the morning so I assumed he wasn’t drunk. WTF? Either you like me or you don’t. It really pissed me off, but I decided not to answer. Not that I think he’s going to call back again, but have you ever gone through something like that and they were genuinely changing their mind about how they felt? I’m just feeling like I’m getting jerked around.
LemonVibe 
[If he was that blunt about ending things with you, he should have to work a lot harder to win you back. A text that says he’s been missing you is not enough. If he truly does think he made a mistake by letting you go, he needs to find a way to open up and say that to you. But even if he does do that, I’d be really careful about hanging out with him again. He was definitely a jerk-hole to you, so be aware that he could pull the same crap again. He clearly doesn’t know what he wants or how to ask for it. Don’t let him jerk you around.
[From the male perspective the only time I’ve seen that done is when you’re drunk, since you said he wasn’t, I wouldn’t know where to start.
But the balls in your court, you can always ask to know why he did that, as I see it you’re the one with the power, I guess it depends whether you think there’s something there or not.
[It’s possible he realizes he made a mistake. Sometimes people don’t know what they’ve got until it’s gone (cliche, I know, but sometimes it’s true). If you think he’s worth another chance, then get back in touch with him, just be very wary. If you weren’t really that into him, then just let it go.
[Agree with everyone one above. He might have been missing you in whatever instance it was that he sent you that text, but if it was more than a fleeting feeling,, he would have pursued it further and most likely not through a text message.
[I’d say he’s definitely feeling *something*. I’m just not sure if “it” is what he’s feeling.
[I don’t know about you, or anyone else, but just because the text was sent in the morning doesn’t ‘absolutely’ mean that he wasn’t drunk. But that’s a character judgement on which I have no background information to support it.
I still weep a bit when I notice that so much relationship building is done via text early on. How difficult would of it been for the guy to call and say he thinks he made a mistake and missed you?
I’d be suspicious. If you like the guy though, give him another shot but make him “earn” it. Call him out on his BS and tell him if he wants to ask you out again to actually make a phone call.
If you could really care less if he misses you or not then I say let him go. Maybe send him a text back saying,, “Thanks, but you were right I’m just not really feeling it either. Good luck.”
[I don’t think he’s into you. No offense, just seems like the text was sort of a booty call.
[I think he’s just not that into you.
[If he wasn’t feeling anything at all, he wouldn’t have communicated with you. However, he was certainly a jerk in the way that he handled things.
Personally, I don’t think he’s worth your time, but I could be wrong since I don’t know either of the people in the situation. My advice to you would be to analyze how you feel about him. Do you see any chance of it working out?
If so, go for it. If not, then cut your losses.
[You handled it with way more maturity than I would have. I would have replied to his text “you’re missing me? Funny, cause I’m not feeling it.”
[I dated a guy who said he wasn’t feeling it, but then a few months later came back to say it was a mistake and we got back together. It worked for a while, but ultimately it ended. When someone says they aren’t in to it, and then they want to get back together, it is usually because they DO miss something about the person and they have forgotten the reason they weren’t in to it in the first place. So, it is probably genuine that he misses you(or a part of you). It also could be that he figured that he would find someone else and wouldn’t be single, but he didn’t and he is still single so he is looking back and thinking, “Well, maybe she was okay and I should give it another chance.” Whatever the reason, be confident and forget him. If you go back to him, you are kind of saying, “Yeah, you threw me out, but I am okay with that. Let’s give it another go.” You are always worth more than what this person is thinking you are. Move on to someone who will appreciate and respect you….and NOT change their mind about their feeelings.
[I believe you can’t trust feelings the first week or so after a break-up. I believe this is true whether you are the dumper or the dump-ee. No matter how certain I am about my desire to end a relationship, I always experience regret the week after. But if I go back, I remember why I wanted out in the first place and re-end it abruptly. If I were you, I’d move on and find someone who is unquestionably interested in you.