I got matched up with this person on eHarmony and we’ve been in communication for about two weeks. She gave me her number, so I called her last Wednesday. She didn’t get back to me right away, though.
She sent me two text messages over the next few days to apologize and say that she was busy. I text back that it was okay, and to call when she had the chance.
Finally, she called me late last night at around 11 PM. I was driving at the time, so I didn’t notice the call. She left kind of a terse message, just saying “Hi ____, this is ____,” and then hung up. I didn’t think too much of it and didn’t call her back. But then a few hours later, at around 1 AM, she called and left another message. This time, I noticed she obviously had a few drinks. I say obviously because she wasn’t that coherent.
I really didn’t know what to make of it. I’m a tolerant person, so it wasn’t a big deal to me, but I know that if I did the same thing to a woman, she would probably ignore all my calls from here on out.
She did apologize this morning via text, which was nice of her, but now I’m not getting the best impression of her. I mean, is she only going to call me when she’s had a few drinks? Is she interested, but just flaky?
LemonVibe 
[Hmmm. If you’re already questioning her intentions and have yet to actually go out on a date, running quickly in the opposite direction might be an option to consider.
[What did her message say?
It could be that she’s just shy or awkward and isn’t the best at expressing herself, and needs some liquid courage in order to do so. I mean…I guess it’s a good thing you were on her mind…right?
I don’t think it’s a reason to write someone off, but if you’re not feeling it don’t force it.
[Hmm. I had a long elaborate response planned out as I was reading this, but then I realized that Missy has a pretty good point:
If you’re already having second thoughts about even meeting her, maybe it’s a sign that your personalities just don’t mesh. Or, maybe there’s something else going on that’s giving you a bad vibe from her. Personally, if a girl I’d been corresponding with drunk dialed me, I’d probably find it amusing, not a turn-off. So, the fact that you are turned off by it might say something about how good of a match you two are for each other….
[Maybe I’m thinking about this the wrong way, but who in their right mind drunk dials someone they’ve never even met? Regardless of your stance on drinking (and I am strongly pro-drinking haha), it just seems like really juvenile behavior and her interactions with you thus far don’t exactly come across as the most considerate. Unless her emails with you have otherwise strongly indicated that she’s a normal, mature, intelligent person (assuming that’s what you want, I guess), I’d let this one go.
[If you haven’t met her yet, and you’re questioning it, why go through with it? Except for a fun dating story – those are (most) always worth it.
[I don’t think there’s anything wrong if she felt she needed some Dutch courage, as long as the message wasn’t overly offensive or anything like that it could be a good ice breaker if you decide to meet.
Hell if anything it just means you know you can take her to a bar for your first date, just don’t let her drive.
Then again, you’ve not met this person, usually first impressions are everything, but it can’t hurt to meet her just to see where it goes. Sometimes in life you just have to roll the dice.
[Damn.,.. looks like I’m gonna be the compassionate one today. I’d vote to give her a chance. Stop going to her, but if she comes to you, allow yourself to go out on one date and see what happens!
If, on this date, she gets wasted or shows up late, or whatever… then you have your answer… but don’t write her off for one laps in judgement.
Who knows, maybe I just have a soft spot for alcohol-related indiscretions.
[This one is going to depend on you and what you are looking for. Personally, if this happened to me, I would not pursue the relationship further because I am not interested in someone who drinks much at all. So, to me, it would be a sign we weren’t going to mesh. But, it could be that you two will totally hit it off and maybe she just had a long night with some friends, but it’s not her norm. You be the judge…go with your gut!