My boyfriend of 6 months recently said that naughty talk in the bedroom gets him really hot. I’m all about comprimise, but the only problem is that I’m totally uncomfortable with bedroom chatter. Many of the examples of women talking dirty in “movies” I’ve found to be really self deprecating and offensive. Any tips on how to please without feeling like a sleeze?
LemonVibe 
[I’d also add to just say what comes to mind – don’t try to play a role of someone you’ve seen on tv, or it won’t come off as sincere. Just try to let your thoughts run free, without focusing on specifically WHAT and HOW you are going to do it.
[More blow jobs – it’s hard to talk with a full mouth.
[Please tell me I’m not the only one here that thought of the episode of “Sex and the City” where Miranda dealt with this very thing! 🙂
It took me some time to get used to it, too. I’d go with what others are suggesting: start by narrating. If you give feedback on how something feels (good or bad), that’s a great start. Of course, you may want to check with your boyfriend on what he constitutes “talking dirty”, because that can mean different things to different people. Does he WANT to say and/or hear degrading things? Or does he just want to hear what you like, and get encouragement that he’s doing something that makes you feel good? Get some clarification, and the next time you guys are getting busy, ease into the dirty talk a little and go from there. You may find it a total turn-on!
[You know… some people can do this, some can’t. I’d say to try everyone’s advice about starting small, but if it feels weird to you don’t force it. It’s totally ok to not be into talking dirty, and hopefully your boyfriend will be understanding and find other ways to increase the flame factor in the bedroom.
FWIW, I don’t do well with this either, and I’ve tried everything. It just feels weird – I’m more of a moaner I guess.. Haha!!
[You say you’re all about compromise, so compromise. You don’t need to go back-door-fisting-porn nasty, here. Tell him what feels good, tell him what you like. Just open up. You don’t have to sound like Jenna Jameson to turn him on. Find a happy medium.
[Narrating is a great, easy way to get into talking dirty. Describe what he’s doing, and how it makes you feel. Your tone of voice and physical closeness will convey a lot of sexiness—you don’t need to worry too much about what you’re saying.
Another thing you can do is to ask your boyfriend to lead by example. During your next romp, ask him to talk to you! You might find that it turns you on, and that definitely makes talking easier. However, if your boyfriend is specifically interested in degrading dirty talk, and that makes you uncomfortable or is a turn off, you need to find out how essential the dirty talk is to your bf’s “sex experience”, and go from there.
[Did anyone else quickly get a flash in their mind from the episode of Friends when Ross is dating a girl who wants him to talk dirty to her?
“Vulva.”
[What LMcMack said. I mean, if this is new to you, just say what you’d like him to do, or say, “I like it when you ____ ” and “I want us to ____ [do it on a yacht? Sorry, I’m trying to write something G-rated here…]” But it is expected that you’ll probably feel a little weird and fake when you first start since it’s something you don’t do normally. As long as you’re trying, it should become more natural over time. Just don’t make yourself feel that you have to be someone you’re not.
[A agree with resullins here.
Dirty talk first requires a bit of communication to help gauge the comfort levels of both parties. And honestly, I’m sure even just little words (or sounds) indicating what you like, and what he’s doing right, will certainly get him to his desired hotness level.
[I struggle with this too… I think to ease into it, start by simply being more vocal in general. “Ooh, that feels good… I want you to ___”. I find once I start by vocalizing something small, things quickly heat up and I feel more liberated to get a little kinkier with the talk as the sex gets more intense.
I think it will take time, though, to conquer the awkwardness of stepping out of your comfort zone, and that’s ok… try and try again. 🙂
[I agree with everyone else – ease into it to start. Start out with some exciting moaning and “oh god/oh baby/oh yeah” etc. You don’t have to be porn explicit for it to be hot!
[I definitely sympathize. I’m much more of a noise maker than a talker, and it’s hard for people to understand that you just kind of freeze up. Especially when it’s in the moment and they say something like, “Talk dirty to me,” (or something similar that’s not quite so cheesy), it’s like you get stage fright and clam up and blurt out, “Errr….uh….I mean…what? Uh…hmmmm….I don’t know what to say…”
I know it goes against everyone saying, “Compromise! It’s not that hard! Just do it!” I’ve never really improved on it much. I’ve tried a little bit and will say a little here and there, but I just basically told my boyfriend that it really takes me out of the moment and is super hard for me to do. But if you want to actually work on it (and not just give up like me, hehe), I’d suggest reading some literotica instead of watching porn. Porn is almost always contrived and the things they’re saying seem so artificial, while the love scenes in (good) stories always have better dialogue and you could actually see a real person saying that. There’s a ton of literotica you can find online, or a ton of free smutty books you can find if you have a Kindle or Nook.
[You might feel more comfortable if you started out with sexting and dirty emails. You’ll learn what type of “dirty talk” your boyfriend likes, and you can get more comfortable with putting things together to arouse him. Once you’ve done that for a while, taking that over to verbal communication during sexytimes won’t seem so foreign to you.
As far as things to write/say, the general idea is to let him know how much you’re into what’s going on, what you’d like him to do, how amazing it feels/how aroused you are/etc. And always, always, always compliment his penis.
[Talking dirty can be so uncomfortable if you are trying to act out something that you don’t buy. So, if you aren’t in to hardcore porn, than don’t try to act that out. I find that role playing can be fun, and easy to get in to. Also, just being very open about what to do to you. Guys like some direction so it ends up being win-win. He learns what you like AND he gets turned on. WINNING!! Be yourself.