My boyfriend and I got into a really heated fight last night, and I’m wondering if most people have guidelines for when a fight becomes more than a fight and becomes grounds for dismissal? Have you ever broken up with someone over one fight, or how much does it take before you’re ready to end it over something like that?
LemonVibe 
[This is far too vague to even offer an opinion. It would depend entirely on the nature of the argument.
[I agree with McMack up there. It could have been a fight about something trivial, in which case… well, maybe you shouldn’t be dating if you both let a small thing blow up to the point of questioning your relationship.
If it was something important that just got blown out of proportion, I’m going to need some more details.
But basically, my ruler is whether or not this problem is going to be a long term issue. If you absolutely refuse to raise your children religiously, and he wants to send them to Catholic school, and neither of you are ready to budge, that’s a serious problem. But if you’re fighting over him leaving his dishes in the sink with food caked on them… that’s a different story.
[If you fight because he:
a) got another girl pregnant
b) hit you
c) doesn’t want what you want (marriage, kids, etc.)
d) is mean, demeaning, or otherwise verbally abusive
Then you break up with him
If you fought because he
a) said you looked fat in that outfit when you asked him
b) wants to keep that ugly Roy Rogers Wagon Wheel table
c) listens to Rush Limbaugh
d) doesn’t get along with your mother
Well, maybe you can compromise.
Or, at least have great make-up sex!
[I think the real question is what the fight was about. We all get into arguments. Maybe you had a minor miscommunication, maybe someone keeps leaving dishes in the sink (I personally don’t get these kind of arguments, but plenty of people have them). If the fight was over something more substantial, say over cheating, abuse, or a general sense that you are on such different pages you aren’t even in the same book, then it might be time to seriously re-evaluate whether making up is worth it. To really advise, I would have to better understand what the nature of the argument was about.
[I agree this is a little vague…but, here’s my two cents anyway:
I’ve never broken up with someone (or been broken up with) because of a fight, but I have ended a relationship because we couldn’t stop fighting.
Like resullins said, if you’re fighting over something trivial, eh, that happens. But if you’re fighting over deeper issues OR the only way you seem to be able to resolve conflict is by fighting, that’s something you should probably take a hard look at in terms of whether that’s the kind of relationship you want to be in. I’m sorry this is happening :(.
[Hope you don’t take the negative votes personally, anonymous blurb poster. As the other people have noted, the question is just a little vague and therefore difficult to answer. I know that you’re probably trying to maintain your anonymity, but some more details about what happened would help people give you feedback….