Do you have any particular criteria for what constitutes a great first date for you? For example, do you look for hours of great conversation? A feeling of butterflies in your stomach? A great kiss? What helps tip the scales towards a second date?
Do you have any particular criteria for what constitutes a great first date for you? For example, do you look for hours of great conversation? A feeling of butterflies in your stomach? A great kiss? What helps tip the scales towards a second date?
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[For me personally? Dinner and a movie is fine, but it’s even better with a twist. Like, one person is really in to foreign movies so the movie is something other than what’s showing at the local megaplex. Or someone is into ethnic foods, so dinner is at an ethiopian restaurant. I don’t think either person has to go too far out of their comfort zone on a first date, but it’s always nice to see that there’s at least a modicum of creativity in there.
Beyond that, good conversation is a necessity, as well as being polite and courteous. I just read this quote again somewhere the other day: “A person who is nice to you but not nice to the waiter is not a nice person.” I fully believe it.
[Good conversation and at least a twinkle in the eye of chemistry/attraction! Also, finding some common ground and not being too grope-y. Unless I want you to be grope-y. Oh, it must be hard to be a man sometimes ;).
[Sex.
[Being comfortable is really my main objective. If I’m on a date with someone that makes me think about every single thing that comes out of my mouth, or makes me think I need to take tiny little bites of food so as not to offend him, or says something that makes me feel uncomfortable, that’s a deal breaker for me.
Yes, I like the hours of conversation and the great kiss, but those things don’t point to compatibility for me. There may be some David Beckham looking man that asks me out for some reason, and my own fantasies make the kiss fantastic, but that doesn’t mean he’s not ignorant, or uptight, or mean to the waiter, etc.
I don’t know if that really makes sense, but that’s it.
[Good, interesting, somewhat flirty conversation! I haven’t had any unique first dates, but I’m fine with that. If you’re going to have chemistry with someone, you’ll still have it even if you’re just having dinner or drinks. So I’m fine with doing something simple on the first date, and I look for that great conversation, and of course feeling attracted to the person.
[That totally made me LOL, Dennis!
[For a first date I think conversation is key, particularly these days with online dating. Sure you’ve been e-mailing and chatting with this person but you have no idea how you’ll really mesh in person.
I say the best first dates are those where you can be relaxed and talk. If you need an activity to help motivate conversation then do that but make it something that you can actually have a conversation during (mini golf, bowling,, kick boxing, under water basket weaving, etc.).
The entire reason for the first date is to get to know someone face to face and read their body language and subtext to things they are saying.
From there, if you genuinely had a good time with the person then the second date will follow. The thing is, don’t let initial thoughts/reactions turn you away from a second date. It takes a few times meeting someone before you can really gauge if there is the potential for a potential romantic relationship.
I got luck in this regard. If it weren’t for that open mind, my girl wouldn’t have accepted a second date with me.