Here’s a question that I’ve always wondered about. Why is it that most women (at least those that I’ve known) tend to have more guy friends than women friends?
Maybe it’s just the women I tend to meet and share interests with, but almost all of them would rather hang out with/around men than other women. I’ve heard the typical answers like, “Women are catty” and “I just get along better with guys” and such. It’s always the same reasoning and if pressed, nothing more is added to it. It’s like they’ve never really thought much about it and I find these types of answers unsatisfying. For example, if you’re classifying other women as ‘catty,’ aren’t you 1- stereotyping and not giving other women a proper chance to NOT be that type of person to you and 2- saying much more about yourself?
And yet, if you flip the coin, it’s rare to see a guy with almost exclusively female friends.
Now I’m not saying that there aren’t women out there like this, that actually do get along better with guys, but the amount seems highly staggering in comparison, to the point that it’s almost surprising that women have any women friends at all!
I have a few theories that I’ve come up with over the years, but none of them are very flattering, so it’s not something that anyone would want to admit to.
I know I’ve rambled on this one and jumped around more than a hummingbird on crack, so hopefully you’ll see where I’m coming from enough to give me some ideas.
LemonVibe 
[I have more female friends than I used to, but I’ve always had a lot of guy friends and in general seem to get along better with guys than girls. And the girls that I am close with are usually like me and generally get along better with guys than girls. Maybe because I’m not a very traditional girly girl? I’ve thought about it quite a bit over the years, but I’ve never come up with a satisfying answer.
[This could be any number of things: where I live, it differing for each girl, etc… but I’ve never noticed this. I mean, yes, I know girls who have mostly guy friends, but I also know girls with mostly girl friends and girls with a mix.
I’m going to go ahead and guess that it just depends on the girl. Maybe the type of girl that you usually become friends with just tends to have mainly male friends. It’s hard to say really.
[“Maybe it’s just the women I tend to meet and share interests with” <– That is exactly why. I have all guy friends. I "just get along better with guys", and I have much more in common with them. I work with two girls who have ALL girl friends, and a couple of my own girl friends are very much the same way, they have their girl friends, and maybe one or two guy friends, but not many. It definitely depends on the girl. But as you said, you're just meeting girls who share interests with you, and girls like that are going to be friendlier with guys.
Better reasons I'm friends with mostly guys:
Guys get my sense of humor better than girls.
Guys are more fun. Guys will go for a midnight walk with me or go skinny dipping or drive around aimlessly. Guys will go to an AA baseball game with me. Guys play flip cup with me at the bar (girls generally won't drink from the cups cuz… "ew"). Guys want to play volleyball or kickball or basketball or go cliff jumping all day and then go out at night. I don't know any girls who would be down for any of this stuff.
Guys don't like to talk about themselves. A couple of my girl friends just can't talk about anything besides themselves… sometimes I really just want to talk about football.
On the "bad" side: I like hanging around all guys because I feel like I don't have to compete for attention. I always drink for free, and back when I was single, I never had to go home alone if I didn't want to. Just being honest!
But you are right, girls that use excuses like "girls are bitchy" are just bitchy themselves and only hang out with guys because there aren't any girls that like them and want to be friends. Generally a girl that says that wants to be the center of attention in a group of guys and will always hate any other girl that enters her mostly male group of friends.
[You get a thumbs up from me just for the “jumped around more than a hummingbird on crack” line.
Many of the women I’ve known who have almost solely guy friends are 1) insecure and trying to draw guys to like them to boost their self-confidence or 2) have strong personalities that clash with other women or 3) go through friends quickly and have trouble keeping friends.
Now, this is not most women that I’ve come across, by any means. It’s the ones that have mostly guy friends. Most women I know have a good mix of female and male friends, probably skewing more female.
[When I was single, I had a ton of guy friends. The reasoning was that guys seemed to share in my active interests and were easier to get along with. Their was no competition in having a guy friend. And women can be catty and non-supportive, so I felt I was “lifted up” by having more guy friends. And guys are awesome to be friends with! It’s a simple relationship, with out much drama. However, and this is a huge however, most guys don’t want to be just your friend. But most girls want to believe that guys really only want to be their friend and nothing else. Maybe this is just me. But when I got married, I realized my guy friends(minus a few), were no longer around. Poof! Gone, and it was because I was truly off the market. I do believe that guys and girls can be friends and only friends, but I would be concerned about someone with only guy friends. Are these guys ex-boyfriends? Or do they not want to meet you? Check out the dynamic of these friendships to see what is really going on…
[It’s because a girl in a group of guy friends makes said friend group more pretty.
A guy in a group of girl friends makes said friend group more farty.
[Because men are honest, fun, and don’t judge you when you don’t wash your hair one morning.
Also, my number one hobbies are playing soccer and playing very competitive pool. Those aren’t places a lot of girls hang out. Unless they’re the clingy type that depend on their man for a social life, in which case I don’t really want to hang out with them anyway.
Also, I can out drink them, and I don’t like gigglers.
[It’s unusual for women to underthink things, especially when it’s something we struggle with. The girls are all giving the same response because it’s the truth!
[I have been told (by female friends) that it is because when girls get together, they just bash on men and how bad their partucular relationship is. If you’re a girl in a satisfying successful relationship – or a woman who doesn’t require a man to define your happiness – you don’t have anything to contribute to these conversations, and if you dare speak favorably of men, they look at you like you have 3 heads.
Men usually talk about “stuff”. Sometimes it’s gross disgusting stuff, but it doesn’t hurt anybody. Speaking of which, does anyone know how to get dried Cheeze-Whiz out of your belly button?
[I have both male and female friends…but I’d say I tend to have more female friends. Male friends for me tend to verge into difficult territory because one or the other of us at some point wants something more than just friendship, and I don’t deal well with that if it’s me or him who feels that way.
But, yeah, sometimes I get sick of the “girly-ness” that a group of women puts off, and I share a lot of activities with men, which facilitates friendships with them. But, I’ve never found men to be “better” friends than women…both genders have different qualities that make them good friends, and I would not want to give up either one.
[Of course men and women can be plutonic best friends. It’s called marriage.
[This question is just asking for comments that could be interpreted as sexist. You want to know the truth? Men are easier to deal with, and in general are funnier and more entertaining. That is why. The negatives of course being that having a friend of the opposite sex can get complicated.
[Also the fact is its an ego boosting experience for everyone involved.Some men love being the center of attention, and for a man it is nice to have a women listen to you, and watch you “perform”. For the one girl in the group of mostly men, she gets nothing but attention.