In the constantly expanding digital age, people communicate via technology far more these days. One things I’ve noticed is that if I’m talking to a girl, regardless of whether there’s anything actually going on, they sometimes become annoyed or even down right angry if I don’t end my messages with an X.
When I have been talking to a girl whom I’m interested in, I’ve been told that not ending my messages with X, is akin to saying I don’t like them, which obviously isn’t true. I just grew up with a phone without a 9 key, and as a result, never got into the habit of putting kisses on the end of a message, now that I’m grown up, it just feels awkward to do.
But it did make me wonder, does putting kisses on the end of a message really change how people view it and is it a habit I should get into?
LemonVibe 
[No one loves me!! I can’t remember a single time I have received an X at the end of a text. Is this a new thing that I am not aware of? Where have I been all these years?
A letter is not a make or break situation. If you don’t want to sign off with an X,then don’t. If the girl you are with is upset about this, then I would venture to say that there are bigger problems brewing. If you care, then you care and she should know this. After all, X is just a letter that falls after W and before Y. Period.
[Yeah… if everyone has to type X at the end of a text in order to show their love… then my mother, father, boyfriend, 6 siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents and best friends have no afffection for me whatsoever.
Seriously, if she’s neurotic enough to require an X… eff ‘er! No, not literally… you know, unless you want to… but then she might want an X at the end of that, too… and that could get messy!
[Do they get mad when you don’t lol at a joke and tell them you’ll ttyl?
Tacking an X onto a text doesn’t change the context of that text. If someone is upset that you didn’t end your text with a kiss, that seems like a HUGE, MASSIVE, GLARING insecurity on their part. I’d hope that, if you liked them, your actual affection would be enough to negate any virtual kisses you accidentally don’t send their way after every single text message.
[I have never heard of this “X” at the end of text thing, and seeing as I have never recieved an “X” in a text to me neither has anyone I know.
Wait..
Hold on a second..
Maybe everyone DOES know about this X thing. And since my husband has never ended a text with an “X” in the 9 years we have been together, ipso facto, he must not love me.
That’s it! I am filing for a divorce, citing “lack of love- no X at the end of text.”
I am sure it will hold up in court.
[Ridiculous. Think about it… would you end a phone convo with “kisses”? If so… maybe you should start using the x.
[Since you have a pretty dry sense of humor, I’d venture that you might have the same issue that I’ve always had:
It’s hard for people to tell when we like someone, because the comments we make are usually more on the sarcastic rather than effusive side.
I used to think, “Eff ’em. If they don’t get me, that’s their problem.” And I suppose that’s true to an extent. At the same time, relationships *are* about compromise. So if there’s someone you do care about, I think it’s worth it to at least make the effort to give them what they need. So, if you forget an “x” now and then, and they point it out, make sure you let them know in other ways that you do care about them, instead of just making a snide comment to defend your failure to type that one single letter.
[Yea, I’m with Jasmine. I’ve never heard of this X thing.
If you explain yourself I see no reason why a girl should get mad about it. Maybe compromise by way of saying “Well I’m just not in the habit of putting Xs, what else can I do to show you I like you?”
[I don’t know about the X or the O, but I get so pissed off when she doens’t put a nose on her smiley face 🙂 . Seriously, who’s mouth is that close to their eyes? It looks silly! And don’t even get me started on the reverse smily face (: Looks like a frown at first. Talk about mixed messages. Both of those will land your ass in the friend zone (former) or the enemy zone (latter).
Kisses. 🙂
[Is the “X” thing something new? I’m with Jasmine and Taurwen: I have NEVER heard of that before. I’ve been with my husband for going on 5 years now, and not once have we ever ended a message–text or otherwise–with “X”.
Personally, I think if a girl gets upset over you not including an “X” at the end, she is either a) insecure, b) has too much time on her hands to worry about silly things like this and therefore needs a hobby, or c) still very much in a high-school mindset…or still IN high school. It seems like such a trivial thing to be upset over.
[I was going to say, you must be from a different country, because in the United States nobody does the X thing!
[OMG…if you don’t, like, end every single text with XOXOXOXOXOX, then, like, obviously you totally don’t, like, love her, like, right?
Sorry, couldn’t resist. Seriously, who actually uses XOXOXOXOX anymore? I thought that was from the 80s/90s or something. Or at least one of those pre-teen/elementary school girl things.
Honestly, I think if someone ended their texts to me with an X or some X/O combination, and I didn’t know them from elementary school (or they weren’t female), I’d question the sincerity. Actually, I’d question the sincerity either way, I’d just know that it might be a joke or reference to childhood if you fit in that category. I don’t know if that’s a sign that I am totally incapable of understanding love or a sign that I’m a grown-ass woman, but there you have it.
[What if you end it with an O instead and agree to disagree? You can also use some variation like huggles or smoochums. Then she’ll beg you to stop and be thankful when your texts are signature free! Problem solved.
[I think you can probably solve this problem by telling girls you’re American!
I’d like to focus on a different part of this for a second….you grew up with a phone that didn’t have a 9 key? Is that a thing?