What I’m looking for in a person

I want to be specific, but also not sound too judgmental. What do you think:

She likes the adventure more than the destination. She would rather take a chance than wonder. She is intelligent, outgoing and spontaneous. She knows what she wants, but is open to try new things. She is smart and witty and likes to laugh. She is goofy and silly and likes to smile. She is confident and comfortable as herself. Someone who can laugh at herself and appreciates sarcasm and humor. Someone with a sharp sense of style with a down-to-earth view on life. She appreciates the small things in life. She likes good conversations and is passionate about her interests. She is kind, caring and compassionate.

7 thoughts on “What I’m looking for in a person

  1. MargieCharles says:
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    [I don’t really have much experience with online dating so take what I say with a grain of salt, but…
    You say you’re afraid of being too specific? I think you’re being too vague. Those are ALL qualities that women think they have. No one is going to cop to being unintelligent or lacking a sense of humor. If you’re trying to appeal to a LARGE group of woman, then I think you’re fine. But if you’re actually hoping to narrow down the dating pool with the description, I’d be a little more specific. Most people like to think they’d try new things, but in reality would get pissy if you sprung a bungee-jumping date on them or tried to get them to eat snails.
    I don’t think you came across as judgmental at all, so I don’t think you really have to worry about that much.

  2. resullins says:
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    [Ha! I think you’re being far too specific. Why is a woman’s sense of style as important to you as her sense of humor? Why would you even include that? There are a lot of small things in there that would eliminate a lot of people I know. Take me for example, I qualify except for one sentence in there. 
    I don’t know, perhaps it’s not that your being to specific, but you contradict yourself a little bit. How many women do you know that are both goofy and silly and like to laugh but who are also confident, posed, and dress nicely? To me, that sounds like you want half Angelina Jolie, half Zooey Deschanel. And I can’t think of any women that fit that mold. 

  3. Eleanor Roosevelt says:
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    [Way too vague.  As Margaret said, every woman who reads it is going to thinks he has those qualities (with the exception of you, resullins ).  Think about activities and interests you have, things you want to be able to share with a partner, and mention those.  If you love to cook and it’s important to you that your partner does too, bring that up.  Can’t stand buddy comedies?  Note that you don’t want a partner who things they are the greates thing since the invention of the wheel.  Some of the vagueness is ok, like you want someone intelligent, adventurous and a little goofy, but it can’t be all you’re looking for.

  4. BreckEffect says:
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    [I’ve online dated a fair amount and I have to say that sounds awfully familiar.  I think you can be more original :).  Think about some specific things that you’d really like to share with a woman, or think about the kind of person that genuinely complements you, and put down qualities that go along with those things.

  5. Shelly says:
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    [What a coincidence!!! I’m totally all of these, except, “…appreciates the small things in life.” I much prefer the big things in…life.

    So yeah, I agree with the others – far too vague.

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