“My girlfriend isn’t romantic at all”

I’m in a 5 month relationship and yesterday we had a bit of an argument, we were playing basketball and when we sat down I asked her a rather silly question but it was serious, would she go to my games when I joined the college team, she replied with ‘I don’t know.’

I’m not going to lie, I was a bit angry because I always try to make her happy with everything and even if she has to lie to me I would figure that the correct answer is yes. I got thinking why I was angry at that little thing, even though it would have been best to say yes. From what I thought, I was angry because I just don’t see her fair share of romantic stuff. It’s not about effort because we see each other every day and always talk but it’s a bit more than that. I got mad because when I thought it over it was like this, all the little things I do, that sometimes you don’t even notice, I do without batting an eye, and when I thought about the stuff she did the list was empty, she doesn’t like to hold hands, I get it, she doesn’t like to be all huggy and kissy, I get it, she doesn’t call me any cute names or even baby, I get it. But if I don’t hug her, we don’t at all, if i don’t try to hold her hand, we never do, and sometimes I look at her and want to kiss her out of the blue, just kiss her on the cheeks and she gets annoyed. My point being that I’m not happy with just seeing her everyday. I’m not saying we never do the those things but they are very rare. Any opinions and advice on how to approach the subject?

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2 thoughts on ““My girlfriend isn’t romantic at all”

  1. Anonymous says:

    It’s highly unrealistic to expect her to go to your college games. They may be expensive, she may have classes or her own games, etc.

    You seem to be holding a lot of grudges for physical affection. She may not be into pda. I think you two aren’t a good match, and since it’s time for college, it may be time for you to move on. You’re about to do a lot of growing and changing. In the year between high school and college you will be a whole new person. She might be holding back, because she’s ready to move on or you are smothering her.

    Good luck to you in college!

  2. M says:

    I Agree with previous comment, it sounds like you want her to be a very different person than she is to fit you “idea” of a girlfriend. You can not pressure her that way, you gotta love a person for who they are, not for who you want them to be.

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