“My husband won’t discipline his son”

I am beyond frustrated with my husband and my stepson. My stepson, DJ, is 16, and ever since he came to live with us, he has caused nothing but drama. He uses drugs and because of his drug use, he was kicked out of the previous school he attended. He’s now attending school here and he’s still using. He has stolen from us to buy his drugs. His dad and I have even caught him in the act of doing the drugs.

My frustration is that my husband chooses to bury his head in the sand. He doesn’t do anything to my stepson. Meanwhile, when I tried to enforce some discipline, I become the evil stepmother. I am so angry about all of this. My husband and I have three kids together, and with them, he is strict. Meanwhile, he lets my stepson get away with darn near everything. When I called him out on this, his reasoning was, “It’s different. Our kids have been around me longer than than DJ, so I expect more out of them.” Continue reading

“I got drunk and cheated on my husband”

I absolutely love my husband and believe he is my soulmate. We have gone through some pretty bad times together, but are happier than ever now. We mostly have a very open relationship, where we can talk to each other about many things.

Long story short, I have a minor issue with alcohol, where I lose my shit when I drink alcohol, and just do a bunch of stupid things. I leave a trail of destruction after a night out. I have stopped for three months at a time a few times because I have just hated myself so much after my actions on some nights out. I wish I had been able to stop altogether, but I guess I couldn’t. Continue reading

“My boyfriend got drunk and pissed in our son’s crib”

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years now. We have a one-and-a-half year old and a two week old.

Over the years, after he gets drunk, he sometimes will get up in the middle of the night, walk somewhere, and just piss. Once, he pulled his drawer out and pissed in it. Another time, he just sat at the side of the bed and pissed. It’s as if he’s sleep walking though as I’ve tried waking him up, and he just yells at me that he’s pissing, and I’m rude for trying to stop him. It doesn’t happen too often but it seems to be happening more often now. It uses to be only when he drank hard liquor but now it’s beer as well, it just depends on how much he drinks I guess.

He never remembers doing it in the morning, and always says he will clean it up but I’m always the one to clean up after him and I’m sick of it. Tonight is really it for me. I’m done with it, but I just don’t know what to do about it. Continue reading

“I feel like I should be in a much better place in my life”

I am 30 years old. I am overweight, but working on it. All I have is a GED and a couple certifications. I am sociable, but not quite socially adept, as I have never had a spouse. What I enjoy most does not make me any money, and what can make me money, I can’t seem to focus enough on academia to do.

I start a new job soon, but it is a linear, dead-end job. It hurts my ego a bit, as I feel like I should be in a much better place in my life, but, due to my choices, I am not. I feel slightly out of touch or disassociated with things, apathetic toward most  things these days. I am an atheist, so any thoughts of mortality tend to scare me enough that I wake up in a very depressed mood, repeating a phrase before falling asleep again to feel nothing in the morning enough so that I can go about my day. Continue reading

“I’m bisexual and interested in my best friend”

My best friend and I have been best friends for three years, and are as close as possible. Recently, our whole school has started to “ship” us together in a relationship. I actually DO like her more than a friend, and we are both bi, but she always seems slightly disgusted when people mention the ship. Since I’ve been her best friend for three years, I can see that her reaction isn’t real, but she also is expressing a liking for a guy in the grade above us. Any advice on how to ask her out?

“I freeze up whenever I try to talk to a girl”

I’m a 23 year old male, and there’s this girl that I like. Problem is, I feel like I have no personality or an identity. The girl I like goes out a lot to drink and have fun and stuff, whereas I don’t do any of those things. There are many times where I want to break out of this shell and just go out, but, I just keep pulling myself back because I don’t really do that, and I’m afraid that I’ll be too boring.

I don’t go to parties because I’m the person that just sits down and never dances. I feel like I’m lost or something. I’m working minimum wage and some of my co-workers initiate conversations with me, but at the end of all of those conversations, I still feel empty. I can’t hold a conversation either, so I don’t know why they talk to me, but, I’m not going to say that to them. There are a lot of conflicting things happening to me, mentally. I see photos of my co-workers and their friends going out and having fun, and I just feel terrible. I feel like an old man inside a young body, and it sucks.

Anyway back to the girl. She’s the very opposite of me. Continue reading

“How do I get away from my dysfunctional family?”

Why are my parents so dumb?

You probably read that and said, “that’s no way to talk about your parents!” Well, once you read this, you’ll be asking the question too.

I grew up with ridicule, abuse, both physically and mentally, and neglect. They literally did not care about our health or well being, but only about our grades (which still turned out poorly due to all of this harsh abuse).

My mother smokes and gambles behind our backs. We tell her to stop, but she has a real gambling problem now. Constantly sneaking out, pouring thousands of dollars into slot machines. Leaving at 10:30pm and returning at 8am. She once withdrew so much money from my account, the bank had sent me emails about suspicious activity, soon finding out that it was my mom.

Now, my dad on the other hand, is another story. He’s selfish. Continue reading

“Every time I try to get closer to him, he pushes me away”

I lay there beside him, pain welling within my chest. My muscles tight, and shaking slightly. It was an anxiety attack, nothing new. I have been dealing with them for years, but, lately, they had begun getting worse. At times, they would last for hours, sometimes they lasted for days. I used to be able to control it. I would go for walks, listen to music, or play with the cat. Anything to distract myself. Those things didn’t work anymore, not since I met him.

Well, reunited would be a better word than met. I’ve known him off and on for years. He is damaged, like I am. Though, he isn’t weak, like I am. He’s been through so much; horrid relationships, psychotic friends, major depression, suicide attempts, drug addictions, overly judgmental family, and a sick, mentally abusive mother. All of that, and he still came out on top, He still fights to enjoy every second of life. His strength is one of the main things I love about him. I am drawn to it, like a moth to a bug light. One of those electric bug lights, because the closer I get to him, the more it hurts.  Continue reading

“I was left out of a threesome”

Anyone ever get left out of a threesome? The wife and I (we are mid 20’s) had a threesome awhile back. It ended up being just the girls that played. I would try to get involved and barely receive anything. Has this happened to anyone else? Do you think it’s more of me not being what the other girl wanted as far as looks?

Now we are trying again, but all the girls we talk to seem to only want her, which makes me happy for her. But it’s like well, fuck, I don’t want to just watch and thanks for making me feel like shit.

Are we just talking to girls that only want other girls, or am I that unattractive? Might be harder to answer without pics but realistically I’m not expecting much insight/help.

“My boyfriend doesn’t think I’m pretty”

My boyfriend and I have been together for three months (long distance), and he doesn’t care about looks at all. When I asked him if he thought I was pretty he said I was “normal.”

I got really upset. I honestly wanted him to say I was pretty, and still have no idea if he finds me attractive. I know he does care a lot for me and I care for him, but I’ve been upset ever since he said it.