“I don’t trust my girlfriend’s guy friend”

I have a girlfriend who has lied to me about an old friend. In the beginning of our relationship she told me about him and said that they stopped being friends because he proclaimed his love for her and she didn’t feel the same way. For awhile this was true — she never talked to him or anything and he was never a concern. A few months ago she started talking to him again, and he said that he just wanted to be friends and I was fine with this because I trusted her. It made me a little uncomfortable but nothing too extreme and I told her how I felt and we were fine, no problems.

One day she and her friend came over and she wasn’t feeling well so she was laying down while her friend and I were outside smoking a cigarette. She told me some stuff about my girlfriend that I didn’t ask to hear, but was completely opposite of what my girlfriend had told me. Only one thing she told me turned out to be true (the friend actually didn’t know what she was talking about fully and was just assuming, which she told me before even talking to my girlfriend), the fact that my girlfriend had previously had interest in this old friend and they had dated. And the way they were talking also indicated the same, and they were flirting on top of that. I told her how I felt and said that it makes it harder to trust her, but will try to and she made the decision to quit talking to him because “he was a problem to the relationship”.

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“My boyfriend won’t marry me unless I lose weight”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for some time now. When we began dating, I weighed close to 210 pounds, then dropped to 140, and am now back up to 168.

Recently, he let me know that he doesn’t want to get married until I am in better shape. Obviously, this crushed me, but, he said marriage is forever, and he does not want to have the urge to cheat on me with women who are in better shape.

In the mean time, he assures me he is committed to me, and is very much in love.

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“I like this guy, but dating is against my religion”

So, in my religion, dating is strictly prohibited. I graduated high school this past June, and I met this boy in eighth grade. He is such a sweetheart and we both have dreams of playing professional soccer, and I know he likes me a lot, I do, too. He’s gonna be a senior this year while I start college, but I skipped a grade, so he’s older than me by two days. I am commuting, and he is now homeschooled so he can focus on soccer, so it could work out.

He’s in Germany right now training with a junior pro team and he says he thinks he’ll move back after school. I told him I want to move to a bigger soccer country when I graduate, and he said he’ll take me with him.

What I am really wondering is if I should go for it, and lose everything I’ve learned in my religion, or should we stay friends? I like really like him and I’ve never had a crush before, but if we date that would mean sneaking around my parents. Ugh! Please help!

“My husband is obsessed with other girls”

My husband is in a group text with a bunch of his coworkers, and all they talk about are hot girls and constantly send pictures of naked or half-naked girls. Some are famous, some  are Instagram models, and some are girls they hook up with. My husband chimes in occasionally by just agreeing that one of the girls is good looking.

Today I saw that one of his friends sent a picture of a girl’s vagina that he had recently had sex with. My husband replied with “I like that p**sy a lot. Definitely down to bang her if you want.” Then someone else wrote “he’s obsessed. He wants to eat it so bad” (talking about my husband).

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“How do I make new friends?”

Hi! I’m going to be a sophomore in high school very soon and I want it to be better than my freshman year. My freshman year, I didn’t make any friends, people didn’t really like me, I didn’t really talk much and I hated every moment of it. But, I want to turn that around this upcoming year.

I’d really like advice on like how to start conversations, make friends and enjoy the supposed “best four years of my life” (even though I totally bombed the first year).

Please help! Thanks!

“How can I revive my marriage?”

I have been married for almost 20 years. For 10 of those years, I have lived apart from my wife. There are no jobs in my hometown, and I am eager to work. With that being the case, I have been working out of town for the past 10 years. I have moved back into town for short stints over the year, but the best employment has always been elsewhere.

She has never wanted to move with me. It has always been the house from her previous marriage, the kids, the job, the church, the family, or the friends. Recently, something changed. I used to drive four hours each way every week to be with her. All of a sudden, I didn’t want to be with her anymore. I told her that I wanted a divorce. A better man would have been able to tell his woman to quit her job and join him in the new location, but that is not me. I work government contracts, and they are usually for less than a year in length. When I told her that I wanted a divorce, she told me that she wanted to meet every weekend in our midway point. The midway point is my house, which is midway between where I work and where she lives. I said no, she showed up anyway. She wanted to remain in contact throughout the end of the year. I agreed. Not because I wanted to, but because she seemed to need it.

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“I want to drop out of school and be a YouTuber”

How can I tell my mom that in a few months I’m dropping out if school and won’t go to college? I want to be a YouTuber and entertain people like I have my entire life. I love video games, but my mom hates it. Anything that happens (even if it doesn’t make sense) she blames video games. She never sees any side except her own and she won’t like or listen to anything I say because that’s how she always is.

School starts in 1 month and I’m too scared to ask her to take me out even though I will do it anyway when I turn 16 in a few months. I want to do this because I can’t fathom getting an 8+ hour job and still being able to play with my online friends and worry about other lively things.

“My dad is overprotective and tells me not to follow my dreams”

I don’t know what to do about my dad. He and I have always disagreed on how I should live my life (I’m 19). He thinks that I shouldn’t follow my dreams, and that I should instead go to college to get a degree in something I don’t even like and have a career in something I hate.

My dream is to travel the world, and he HATES that I want to do that. He’s worried about my safety out in the dangerous world (which I understand) but traveling is the thing that makes me feel like I have a purpose, and it’s the reason I get out of bed everyday, I have an adventurous soul! So we’ve been fighting for the last couple years about how I should live my life.

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“I’m in love with my wife’s sister”

My wife & I have been married for 15 years. Before I say anything about my current & long lasting situation I want to just make it clear, I love my wife.

My situation is this: for the last 15 years I have been in love with someone else, too. I met her just a few weeks after I met my wife. From the first time I saw her, I fell head over heals for this beautiful girl. ( I will use a fake name of Amy for her) From day one Amy & I hit it off. But there were two problems. 1) I was dating my now wife at the time. 2) The biggest problem, Amy, was her sister. Only four years younger than me.

So there is my problem. As wrong as it sounds, I have been in love with my sister in-law for the past 15 years.

In my 15 year marriage I have had awesome memories, good times & bad times. No kids though. On the other hand, in the years since Amy & I have known each other we have found more & more things in common. We enjoy the same music & hobbies. We can easily talk for hours at a time. We have become each others best friend. Helping each other through whatever life tosses our way. It was only a matter of time until, in various indirect ways, we both made it clear that the feelings were the same for each other. At one time just last year we had an “almost kiss” moment.

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“My boyfriend’s ex committed suicide”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now, and I’m absolutely crazy about him. He and I met while we were both in Nashville for music, got coffee and lunch together a couple of times, and just grew really, really close in a short amount of time. He opened up to me, in detail, about his past drug addiction, his exes, etc.

He lives five hours away from me, now. He’s the type to remain friends with everyone, unless they push him out of their lives. Which is great, except for the fact that he still hangs out with two of his exes. Not exclusively, and he’s told me before that he doesn’t have feelings for either of them, and he would never get back together with either girl.

But it still bothers me a little bit. I don’t know. Maybe I’m being jealous? I don’t want to be “that” girlfriend, and I trust him wholeheartedly. I just know what his last ex did to him, and I hate that she expects him to just go on being friends like nothing happened and that he’s willing to do that, for the most part, because he still does want to be friends (since they’re in two bands together).

The biggest issue I have is this:

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